Emotional intelligence is not about damping down, escaping from, or suppressing your emotions. Emotional intelligence is about feeling your emotions, knowing they are there and why. Expressing them and moving through them in a healthy way. There will be times when you will get upset, sad, or frustrated. It is only natural. If someone close to you dies I would expect you to feel sadness, loss, and grief. You may miss this person and feel there is an emptiness in your life, you may be angry because they have left you, you may feel bleak and lonely without them. These are all normal reactions. The speed with which you move through your emotions will depend on the severity of your initial reaction and the nature of the event, as well as on your level of emotional intelligence. Naturally, you wouldn't be expected to stop grieving a day after your loved one died. This also applies to everyday events and emotions. When you get angry because your team failed to meet a deadline at work. Or furious when you were ignored at a meeting. Or hurt and insulted when someone said you were slack, fat, or incompetent. Can you move through these emotions and let them go quickly?

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