Throughout the process, there can be a combination of both joint sessions and individual sessions. The former is where all parties are present in one room together. The latter is where the parties separate and the mediator then speaks to each party separately in turn. We will discuss when it might be necessary to separate the parties and have individual sessions, but in my experience it is generally preferable to keep the parties together in one room as much as possible.
It is during the joint sessions that the most progress is often made as the parties hear things directly from each other and begin to get a better understanding of how the other is feeling and perceiving things. It is not uncommon for this to be the first occasion where there has been the time and space or opportunity for the issues to be aired in this way and directly with each other. It can get emotional and fraught from time to time, but this is an important part of the process. In my early days as a mediator, I worried if things became difficult and would tend to break out into individual sessions; with experience, I now let the joint sessions flow and will only intervene or separate parties if I think that it is really necessary. Many of the mediations that I now undertake will not include any individual sessions at all.
Following the "uninterrupted time" opening statements stage, the interaction and dialog generally becomes a bit more natural with one person speaking and another replying, commenting, or questioning.
Here are some tips on how to manage the joint sessions:
The main things to bear in mind when you are managing joint sessions is to ensure that you demonstrate and maintain your neutrality at all times and facilitate the discussions in such a way to maintain progress and focus. Try to resist looking surprised at anything you hear and try and challenge each party equally. You need to balance maintaining control and authority over the process as well as letting the process and dialogue flow; with experience, you will learn when and when not to intervene.