Fulfillment comes from applying your “full self.” Are you treating work as something completely separate from life? Or is life interfering with your work? Combine them to make the most of both. Work can enhance life, and life can enhance work.
It's cool now for people to expect their work to be purposeful, to be meaningful. As it should be. And Meaning Snobs can go on and on about how meaning is more important than money, or how impactful their gigs are … and that's great.
The truth is, putting meaning first, second, and third on your list of priorities won't make you money. For Avanoo's Daniel Jacobs, building a meaningful business didn't take off until he put money first, realizing that without being able to create predictable revenue or funding, nothing he created—however inspiring or meaningful—would last.
Putting meaning first, second, and third on your list of priorities won't make you money.
Luckily, there are many ways to make money meaningful. There's nothing like the fear of seeing your kids go hungry—or a payroll date coming up, or visiting people in dire need, or struggling to raise money for your nonprofit project—to get you over your hesitation in bringing in sales in new ways and see new meaning in money.
Here's one test you can run to see if someone's using “meaning” as an excuse to stay comfortable and avoid growing.
Imagine one of your friends, for example, one who means well and wants to help people but who pretty much just shares inspirational quotes all day or posts pictures of himself or herself being spiritual or edgy. Maybe they volunteer weekly or monthly. Now imagine this friend saying, “I'm going to create a $1 million organization to help/fix/address [insert cause].”
Can you see that person—or maybe it's you!—actually doing it? Can you see them walking the walk, jumping in and embracing the idea of putting money as a top priority, a necessity to support the mission? (Assuming integrity is a given.)
It's easier to hide and pretend that the “money stuff” (or whatever else you need to change) isn't important. No guts, no glory—and no risk of failing. Breakthroughs often require you to let go of your ego, and egos can be harder to break down than bad habits. Pride often interferes with taking the leap to grow.
Breakthroughs often require you to let go of your ego, and egos can be harder to break down than bad habits.
This is just one example of why we resist change: it forces us to admit that we could be wrong, or makes us feel we're not as good as we think we are, or that we don't know as much as we thought we did. It's easier to avoid facing those truths; including telling yourself and others that say money is a nice-to-have. Remember, comfort is the enemy of growth.
In your case, rather than telling yourself “you can only work at a job with meaning,” maybe instead it's a belief that you need to stick purely to software, and avoid creating professional services. Or you're afraid of raising prices. Maybe you can't accept help from others. Or believe standardization is impossible. Are you sure you're a need-to-have on your team, rather than someone who's surprisingly replaceable? You could believe that you're VP-level talent trapped in a manager-level role. Or that you're above average (which is statistically impossible) and deserve a break for being special. That you're going to be magically discovered …
This is why successful entrepreneurs care more about the brutal truth than about being right or looking good. They take responsibility for results, not intentions. It boils down to this: “Is this working? If the answer is yes—great, do more. Is the answer no? Then don't blame other people; instead, ask what can I do, what needs to happen, to fix it?”
Use crises to motivate you to embrace the change, as painful as it may be, rather than avoid it. And if you don't have a crisis, get creative with manufacturing one with Forcing Functions that drive you to grow anyway.
And if you just can't find something that'll drive you, or find the courage to keep creating challenging Forcing Functions, or spend the years needed to Do The Time … maybe you should give up on your current goals and find some smaller ones.
Try starting with what you're already doing. Don't assume that meaning will come only from quitting your job and finding some exotic new occupation. Or that you'll feel purposeful when you're helping homeless people, volunteering in Africa, or are inspiring X million people.
Don't assume that meaning will only come only from quitting your job and finding some exotic new occupation.
There's nothing wrong with those goals, but start by finding more meaning in the little things you already do every day: talking with a customer, giving someone a helpful idea, writing something (whether anyone else cares or not). Getting feedback from a coworker. Getting coffee with a teammate. Fixing a bug. Coding a new feature. Learning how to better organize your workspace. Talking with an angry customer and saving the relationship. Breaking through a creative block. Or just breaking something. Getting your reports and dashboards to finally work. Learning from a spectacular failure. Finishing your daily sales or activities goal.
How can you make unique contributions to the business and team? What would make your job more fulfilling? How can you stand out from the crowd?
It's hard for companies that sound the same as every other business in their field to stand out. And it's the same for people: to succeed in your career, you have to stand out. Discover what makes you different, learn how to express (market) it, and apply it in a way that solves others' problems, whether they're coworkers or customers.
Discover what makes you different, learn how to express (market) it, and apply it in a way that solves others' problems.
Does your resume cover 100 different things you can do? Chances are you're sounding generic and vague to others, so they don't “click” with why they should hire, promote, or recruit you. How do your executives perceive you—as someone to watch or as a face in a crowd?
Being different and unique can create buzz.
Being different and unique can take courage.
A great brand (personal or business) repels as much as it attracts. Because it stands for something. And when you stand for something, no matter what it is, many others are bound to disagree.
Instead of thinking about all the stuff you could or should do, what do you want to do? Rather than thinking about many talents and skills you have, what problems or goals do you want to apply them to? What do you want to do or create, that you would be proud of?
Instead of thinking about all the stuff you could or should do, what do you want to do?
Once you ask the question, “What is my Unique Genius?” your mind will begin trying to answer it. Here are some questions to help you figure out how to better combine money and meaning.
Once you ask the question, “What is my Unique Genius?” your mind will begin trying to answer it.
Apply these questions to your job today:
You can find downloadable worksheets and other free resources at FromImpossible.com/unique.
In 2015, Amazon was publicly embarrassed by a New York Times article that said the company's work practices included “85-hour workweeks, annual staff culling, executives encouraging underlings to sabotage one another, employees weeping at their desks.” And that female employees who had suffered miscarriages, stillbirths, or sickness were expected to either remain productive or be punished.
Now, we gotta take all this with a grain of salt. The New York Times and its writers, like all media businesses, is naturally going to take whatever ugly stories they can find, and embellish them as much as possible while remaining true to the facts, because it attracts readers. With any company that hires 100,000-plus people, you can find pretty much any story you look for. And as far as the news goes, drama brings in far more readers than happiness. People love to read about others' problems, yet never post anything about their own, instead sharing pictures that show how great their life is.
Pretending you or your team don't have kids, aren't exhausted or sick, or that “everything's fine” doesn't make it true.
Everyone at some point ends up living with challenges they can't just simply sweep under the rug.
Everyone at some point ends up living with challenges they can't simply sweep under the rug, and that will affect him or her at work …
All of these are a part of life. Life happens. So…how can you integrate life and work, even when you're being dealt a crap hand?
How? Start by setting the example. Don't be embarrassed to admit you have problems. Keep it simple, without having to make a big deal or drama out of it. “Sharing” is about informing, not whining.
If you show other people how to be honest with personal challenges, and not feel judged or punished, it lightens the situation. And it stops others from wondering, “Why's Bob been so distracted and absent lately?” so they can focus and adapt, too. It can help prevent unhappy surprises later. When people are honest with each other, a solution can be found to help everyone win.
If you show people how to be honest with personal challenges, and not feel judged or punished, it lightens the situation.
Lastly, you don't—and shouldn't—share everything. Some things should remain private. If you're having problems with your significant other, don't blab about a private matter without their permission. Respect the other person: How would you want them to treat your privacy?
You don't—and shouldn't—share everything. Some things should remain private.
You can say nothing, or keep it vague: “I'm sorry I've been distracted. I've having personal problems that have been a real drain on me, and I don't know how long they'll last.”
Having a lot of time and money can make growing a business easier. But don't let a lack of either be an excuse to do nothing. A baby step is better than nothing; you can't take one that's too small. A lack of money or time can force you to be more creative with what you do have, if you look at it like a challenge. It's one reason I've limited myself to (usually) 20- to 30-hour workweeks, and using less than $100 to start each business.
Even if you work part-time or “part-energy”—you can still make progress, as long as you find ways to set aside some time each day or week, or even year to focus. And keep setting or resetting goals. When you wander off track, get back on.
It might take you 3 or 10x longer than someone who can work full time or raise extra money, but you can get there.
Paul Heill wrote, “I see you're a dad of 12! WOW!!! How the hell do you do it man??? I have two with another on the way, and am stressed out.”
We have 12 kids (so far…), from a newborn to 17. The most physically and time-consuming part of being a dad has been having a new baby. So, while 12 kids may sound like a lot, I cheated by skipping the whole infant stage with many of them:
Also, three of our kids have or had physical challenges—like our six-year old son Maverick, whose elbows and knees don't bend—but they are mostly correctable, and we all just adapt, so it ends up being not as big a deal as you might assume it would be.
Trust me, when I hear about a family of two parents—with no extra help—who have had four, five, or more kids all biologically, I think “How the hell do they do that!?!”
Jump in with both feet, and figure it out later.
Money
Kids
Challenges
In 2007 I spent a lot of time envisioning what I wanted to create with my life. I was still single. I wasn't thinking at all about kids. It had never occurred to me I'd have or want a big family.
I thought I wanted fulfilling work. And to make as much money as I wanted, doing what I loved.
Almost 10 years later, I've seen the impossible become inevitable. I just never expected family to be the main driver of both the money and the fulfillment and fun I wanted.
Though, even with all the growth, I can't see slowing down anytime soon in work or family. No comfort here, yet! Among other goals, my wife and I want to inspire more families to adopt and help kids who are alone in the world. I can't tell you how many people say “I've always wanted to adopt, but…[insert reason].”
Just do it.
When you're pursuing anything vitally important to you, you can figure it out. If you stick to it, especially through the times that feel like failures. Even if it takes you years longer to get there than you wanted, and in totally unexpected ways.
When you're pursuing anything vitally important to you, you can figure it out when you embrace the challenge and growth rather than avoid it.