An important theme running through this book is the idea that a great boss is someone who helps and supports their people to do their best work. This worldview encourages us to engage in positive, developmental behaviors such as coaching, delegating, and communicating openly.
But this approach to management assumes that employees have both the will and the skill to do their jobs well. Even if this assumption is valid 95% of the time, we still have to figure out how to act the other 5% of the time.
The reality is that there will always be a small number of people who, for whatever reason, are not interested in doing a good job or lack the basic capability to be effective. They show up late, they shirk, they complain, and they make frequent mistakes – and their negative behaviors create problems for those around them.
One of the hallmarks of a really good boss is the ability to handle these situations quickly and effectively. In many ways, this is the toughest part of the manager's job because it involves dealing with unpleasant situations and making difficult decisions. It is always tempting to duck the difficult choices and to give an individual the benefit of the doubt. But keep in mind that one bad apple spoils the entire bunch – in other words, if you allow one individual to get away with behaving badly, the whole organization suffers. The title of Bob Sutton's best-selling book The No Asshole Rule captured this point perfectly.
In this chapter, we discuss five techniques for managing difficult situations. First, we look at interpersonal dynamics: We consider how to resolve conflict effectively (#76), and we look at how to deal with bad behavior at work (#77). Then we look more widely at the phenomenon of office politics (#78) in terms of how it manifests itself, how you can mitigate it, and how to protect your team from it. Finally, we look at the particular challenge of individuals not doing well in their own role. We provide advice for handling poor performance (#79), and we consider the art of being tactful (#80).
As we discussed in the previous section (#75), conflict within a team can be upsetting for those involved, but it can also be positive – for example, when it involves discussing ideas that clash with one another and better ideas emerge as a result.
Using conflict to spark creativity is great in theory, but there is often a lot of emotion involved in these situations. If this isn't addressed as part of the process, people can get very upset with one another, and their working relationships can be irretrievably damaged.
This is where Roger Fisher and William Ury's principled negotiation is useful. Popularized in their book Getting to Yes, they suggest the following principles:
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Source: Adapted from Fisher and Ury 1981.
People get into conflict with one another for many reasons, and as we've seen, such conflicts sometimes lead to creativity and improved decision making. However, at other times, people can behave in a way that undermines the team and poisons the atmosphere. You need to take a firm line in such situations.
Unfortunately, it's often hard to tell if a behavior is genuinely wrong. For example, is it right for someone to turn up at work with extensive facial piercings? This may be fine in a creative marketing agency, but it may be deeply problematic for someone serving clients in a private bank. And is it okay for someone to yell at a colleague? Most people would say no, but in some work settings, this type of aggressive behavior is acceptable. So how do you decide what constitutes “bad behavior”?
There are some obvious tests: Is the behavior legal? Does it comply with organizational policies and procedures? And does it comply with professional or organizational codes of ethics? It's easy to know what to do in these cases, but you may not come across them often – most people know not to cross these lines, and your recruitment processes will hopefully “weed out” this type of rule breaker.
This leaves a whole lot of behaviors that don't fit with the normal rules, and it's often quite hard to know how to act in such circumstances. This is where the following tests can help:
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Office politics refers to the way people manipulate others – for example, by gossiping and sharing confidential information to further their own personal objectives. Of course, there is always some of this going on, but a high level of office politics can be deeply corrosive within an organization. It's something that you need to be alert to so that you don't end up being undermined by it.
All of us do things at work that aren't strictly aligned with the organization's mission or our key objectives. Often these are small things – for example, social activities or personal favors that actually help our teams function more smoothly. We also need to be able to work effectively with senior and influential people around us and win resources for our teams, and this is where skills such as stakeholder management (#91), influencing skills (#94) and win-win negotiation (#100) become increasingly important as we climb the organizational ladder.
Some people see these types of activity as “political,” but done in an open, honest way, they are a necessary part of functioning successfully within a complex organization.
Where this type of behavior becomes destructive, though, is when it focuses on the interests of individuals – often senior individuals – rather than on the interests of the people the organization is supposed to serve. In such circumstances, “rules” start getting broken, people get hurt unfairly, and decent treatment of people starts to break down.
People hate working in an environment like this. Gossip grapevines go crazy; people become cynical; goodwill, employee engagement, and creativity collapse; and the best people throw their hands in the air in exasperation and move on.
So, how can you deal with office politics in your team?
The answer lies with you, and it comes down to setting a good example (#49), leading in an inspiring, transformational way (#54), and making sure that people know how their work contributes to the organization's mission (#81 and 26.) If you do these things, then it's easy for everyone to apply the type of bad behavior at work tests we looked at in #77. Political behavior becomes obvious to everyone, and you can deal with it firmly and decisively.
And how can you protect your team if there is a lot of office politics going on around you? One answer is to ignore it and just get on with your job. But there is a risk that you and your team members lose out to colleagues who are actively engaging with politics. Another answer is to ditch the organization and move on to a better, less political place. The third and best approach is to try to do something about it. Running an employee survey with office politics questions is a good starting point (there is a perceptions of organizational politics scale that may be useful here; see the link below).
If you want to continue working in an organization and you can't change its culture, then you'll need to learn how to play the positive side of the political game and neutralize its negative side. To do this:
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Find out more about recognizing dark triad behaviors: | http://mnd.tools/78-2 |
Find out more about the perceptions of organization politics scale: | http://mnd.tools/78-3 |
Conflict and bad behavior are just two things that can go wrong within a team. Another is that people fail to perform effectively. Clearly, this is frustrating and difficult for you, and it causes problems for your customers. Moreover, it can put a lot of pressure on other members of your team, who may have to do unnecessary work to compensate for the poor performer. All of this means that you need to deal with performance issues promptly, rather than letting them fester.
Poor performance has two basic sources – low motivation and low ability. It may be obvious which of these you're dealing with. If it isn't, it may be best to assume you're dealing with both until you have good evidence one way or the other.
You can address low motivation by linking people's work to the organization's mission and by setting clear goals for them – we saw how you can do this when we looked at organizational missions and key results. You can set a good example for them, listen carefully to any problems they're experiencing, and structure their jobs to be as motivating as possible. We saw how to do this in Chapters 5 and 9.
You can also provide appropriate support (#59), feedback (#68), and coaching (#69) to help people improve their level of motivation. Bring all of this together into a clear performance improvement plan, document what performance levels you expect to see by what dates, and meet regularly to monitor how the plan is progressing.
You'll need to deal with ability issues using a different approach, and this is where the five Rs of performance improvement from David Whetten and Kim Cameron's book Developing Management Skills can help. The steps are:
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So far in this chapter, we've explored how to deal with some difficult but common management situations. You can manage these in a clumsy way or you can do them well, and this is where tact – the ability to communicate painful information sensitively – is important. If you prepare well and communicate your message tactfully, you've got a good chance of resolving the situation successfully. However, if you go in unprepared and blurt out the first thing that comes into your mind, you can make a difficult situation much worse.
So how can you deal with situations tactfully?
Learn more about communicating tactfully, including getting tips on dealing with specific difficult situations: | http://mnd.tools/80-1 |
Find out how to use role play to prepare for a difficult situation: | http://mnd.tools/80-2 |
Learn more about how to read body language, and find out how to align your body language with your message: | http://mnd.tools/80-3 |