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In Your Power
by Sharon Melnick
In Your Power
Cover
Title Page
Copyright
Dedication
Introduction
PART I: Be the Thermostat (Not the Thermometer)
PART II: Portals to Be In Your Power
PART III: Portals to Use Your Interpersonal Power for the Good of All
PART IV: Create a Ripple Effect
Acknowledgments
Index
End User License Agreement
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In Your Power
Table of Contents
Cover
Title Page
Copyright
Dedication
Introduction
Notes
PART I: Be the Thermostat (Not the Thermometer)
CHAPTER 1: From Out of Your Power to In Your Power
What Happens When You Are Kicked Out of Your Power?
Three Power Derailers: Overcome Your Hardwiring to Be in Your Power
Turning a Vicious Cycle into a Virtuous One
Notes
CHAPTER 2: From Chaos to Control
The 50% Rule
How to Begin Accessing the Portals
Notes
PART II: Portals to Be In Your Power
CHAPTER 3: Precision: From Instinctive to Intentional
The Three Questions for Creating New Outcomes When Out of Your Power
Who Do You Need to Show Up as in Order to Move the Situation in That Direction?
Bring Your Horizon Point into Your Every Day
Notes
CHAPTER 4: Perspective: From Casualty to Creator
You Can't Grow Past Your Beliefs, But You Can Change Them
Your Ability Is Infinite if You Keep Cultivating It
Get a 3D Perspective on the Situation
You Want to See the Hologram of Any Scenario You're Struggling With
Note
CHAPTER 5: Physiology: From Hijack to Natural High
Return to a State of Calm
“Feeling Is Healing”
Fill Yourself Back Up!
Notes
CHAPTER 6: Purpose: From Your Small Game to Your Big Game
Playing Your Small Game versus Your Big Game
Finding Your Purpose
Shift Your Focus to Those You're Serving
Be the Champion and Steward of Your Beneficiaries
Notes
CHAPTER 7: Psyche: From React to Reclaim
The Stories You Tell Determine the Quality of Your Life
You Have the Power to Choose a New Story
Why You Chose Your Story
Change Your Lead Story into a Life Story
You Can Own the Narrative of Your Life
Assign Your Story to a Part of You
You Can Move beyond Your Storyline
Notes
CHAPTER 8: Proficiency: From Invisible to Invaluable
Be Confident—and Objective—about Your Proficiency
Note
PART III: Portals to Use Your Interpersonal Power for the Good of All
CHAPTER 9: Persuasion: From Unheard to Undeniable
Persuasion Pitfall #1: Asking, Not Aligning
Appeal to Both Their Business and Personal Interests
Persuasion Pitfall #2: From Single Conversation to Stakeholder Campaign
Persuasion Pitfall #3: Not Clearly Providing a Framework
Persuasion Pitfall #4 Focusing on Past Achievements to the Exclusion of Future Ones
Persuasion Pitfall #5: Not Making It Easy for Your Decision Maker to Implement Your Idea
Notes
CHAPTER 10: Partnership: From My Problem to Our Solution
You Want to Transfer the Ownership of the Problem
Make Them an Active Part of the Process
See Yourself as the Steward of the Whole Scenario
Infuse the Situation with Light
Note
CHAPTER 11: Protection: From Silent Suffering to Sovereignty
Boundaries to Protect Your Time, Attention, and Energy
Proactive Boundaries to Prevent Overwhelm at Work
Set Boundaries to Carve Out Time you Need
Use Active Questions to Take Back Control over Intrusive People
Reactive Boundaries
Protection beyond Boundaries: Putting Up Barriers
The Special Problem of Narcissists
The Special Case of Harassment
Notes
CHAPTER 12: Powerful Truth: From Angry to Authentic
Transcend Your Personal Hurt and Frame the Collective Hurt
Use a Strategic Display of Emotion
Connect the Dots and Bust Myths That Perpetuate the Problem
Create an Opportunity to Educate and Encourage Partnership
Reclaim the Definition of Words so They Don't Hurt You
Notes
CHAPTER 13: People: From Alone to Amplified
We Are Wired to Co‐Regulate
People Hold Up a Mirror for Us
The Power of the Posse
People Can Give You Feedback to See Your Blind Spots
Seek People Who Can Catalyze Your Power
Seek Out Mentors, Sponsors, and Allies
Notes
CHAPTER 14: Position: From Overlooking Your Power to Owning It
Bring Consciousness into the Use of Power in Your Position
Focus on Your Why
Be Successful at Using Your Power
Use the Leverage You Already Have but May Be Overlooking
Leverage Your Power
Create the Weather on Your Team
Growing Power in Others Grows Your Power
Become a Sponsor
Engage in Allyship
Leverage the Power of Platform
Notes
PART IV: Create a Ripple Effect
CHAPTER 15: Power Is a Lifestyle
Acknowledgments
Index
End User License Agreement
Guide
Cover Page
Title Page
Copyright
Dedication
Table of Contents
Begin Reading
Acknowledgments
Index
Wiley End User License Agreement
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